Controlled Burn

It is about time for my midlife crisis and like everything else, I have a plan for it. In no particular order:

  1. FINISH WHAT I START!!!!!

  2. Stop trying to make other people’s ideas of the perfect approach work for me. It either works for me or it doesn’t. This is where I need to learn to trust myself and my intuition more.

    1. Faith

    2. organization

    3. self help trauma-drama

    4. formal education

    5. My body

  3. Find opportunities to not be responsible. (Yes, I can see how this might go sideways.)

    1. Yoga (for me, all by myself.)

    2. visiting my bestie in Seattle

    3. solo trips

    4. Hang out with my friends for the sake of knowing them, not play dates

  4. Laugh more! Especially at myself. I have no idea how I became so practical and serious.

    1. put myself on blast

    2. stop lying/covering imperfections in my life with tidy explanation

      1. I mean, really. Fuck it.

  5. Create without being critical and SHARE IT.

    1. I already have everything I need to be who I need to be

    2. use the external criticisms to strengthen my resolve

  6. Be outside more.

    1. beach

    2. hiking

    3. swim lessons (I want to be able to do more than tread water and save my own life.)

    4. outdoor adventures

    5. camping

    6. gardening

  7. Set my TV on fire.

    1. When I wake up at 3 in the morning there are a million and four things that I can be doing that isn’t watching someone else live their life or pretending to live a life that isn’t theirs

  8. Date my husband.

    1. That man is sexy.

    2. Call him Brent. He is not my Daddy…well, you know what I mean.

    3. Talk more about who we are separate from who we are together. Learn who he is because I know I am not who I was 19 years ago.

  9. Cook more.

    1. I cook when I am happy. I eat when I am sad. I will cook more.

  10. Fall in love with myself.

    1. Stop waiting for future ideal me to show up. Just be here now.

    2. I bought a 2 piece!

    3. Must include ink. Copious amounts of ink.

  11. Grow my friendships into sisterhoods.

  12. Talk to my kids more

    1. Parenting has it’s place, but I have to start building the foundations of friendships with my soon to be adult children.